A common complaint I hear from clients is they feel as if they are lacking meaningful connections. They don’t want to spend time in conversations that are just “surface level”. They want depth, meaning and substance.
I get it, I crave those things also.
A big part of cultivating more meaningful and fulfilling relationships with others (and ultimately creating a more meaningful and fulfilled life) involves knowing when - and how - to have difficult conversations with others. But before we can truly lean into difficult conversations with others, we need to be willing to have difficult conversations with ourself.
After all, YOU are the most impactful person in your life and also the person you spend the most time with on a daily basis (literally 24/7!) And the conversations you're having with yourself can often determine the level of success you're experiencing...or not experiencing.
Both in life, and in your relationships with others.
So if you truly want to build more meaningful relationships with others, start by reconnecting with yourself. Ask the hard questions, feel the deep feelings and let yourself see the parts that you may have been avoiding.
Not sure how to get started? Here’s a few prompts to help you start getting to know yourself on a deeper level and start creating more success in the areas that matter most to you:
1) What are you pretending not to know or ignoring when it comes to what you truly want in life?
2) What are you gaining from pretending not to know it- in other words what are you avoiding by pretending to not know?
3) What needs to change now that you know the truth?
These questions have always helped guide me through stressful and challenging situations. And while the process of answering these questions isn't always easy, it will likely be pretty eye opening. And in my experience, just starting the inner dialogue, and reflecting on what the answers might be can help you show up more powerfully and authentically, both for yourself and for others.
Let me know how it worked out for you!
Xoxo,
Afsheen
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